Sasha's Dreams

This here is a happy making post for laceblade!! She is having surgery tomorrow. Things that would be great to post in comments would be fic/fic recs, art/art recs, cute and funny pictures, jokes, or whatever else you can come up with.

Here is a list of some of her general fannish likes and dislikes from east asian fandom gift bag. She also likes Glee and feminist SF novels, Hello Kitty, and Buffy.

Also, feel free to link to this post! Thanks so much!

I'm trying to be a better person-- more integrated and honest, for example. Trying to let go of petty grudges and bitterness. But shit is hard, man!

Sherlock was really good. I'm in love with this show.

That's right. Inspired by fantasmabob.

This is the level 3 class and will be focused on creativity.
( class 1 )

( journaling )

( values )

I highly recommend seeing the film "The Artist". It's a silent film about the silent film era, and it's beautiful. The story is good, the acting is great, the characters felt like real people with real lives, and the experience of seeing a modern silent film done with such skill-- this is probably a once-in-a-lifetime event for me. I have one warning: skip)
Themes of suicide and depression, a foiled suicide attempt.


I also watched Sherlock 2x01 tonight and I *loved* it. :D :D :D is my reaction. ETA, I was much more pleased with this than I was with the movie, in general.

The film "Sleep Dealer" (2008) is a really excellent SF movie about water shortages, immigrant labor, and connecting one's mind to a network, all the while being a really human story about people trying to connect and make lives for themselves in a near-future Mexico. It's in Spanish (with English subtitles), rated PG-13, no standard warnings. I even enjoyed the "making of" featurette which is very rare for me.

I haven't been reading a whole lot of Yuletide stories, but I did enjoy all 4 of the Octopus ones.

After thinking it over for a few days, I figured out what I didn't like about Sherlock Holmes #2.

( spoilers ahoy )

I had a rather involved, mostly non-heated argument (as much as I can be non-heated in an argument) with a friend the other day about language and I'm still thinking about it so I want to write it out.

My premise is that if you are a gay man, don't say "ew" or other such words in describing your reactions to women's genitalia. At the very least, be more tactful, because it's just rude to refer to someone's body that way. (I got him to agree on this point). Furthermore, you might think it's just about your own personal reaction, but we live in a misogynistic world, and your reaction is colored by structural misogyny. My friend didn't agree with me on this point, but I still think I'm right.

I didn't say it quite so clearly in the actual argument, of course! This is one of the reasons I stopped reading Dan Savage's column: I got tired of him saying things like this, of him not getting it, not understanding the power of language. Writers in particular, you think they'd understand. But a lot of people don't make that connection between "my personal opinion" and "systemic oppression".

Then I got to thinking today about how I don't ever hear lesbians refer to men this way. I can only think of once-- in the pilot of "The L Word," when a woman says, "Ew, I can't believe I used to swallow this stuff," when referring to the semen she's using to try and get pregnant. And that's the one and only instance I can think of. In fact most of the lesbians I know read and write m/m slash fanfic, which celebrates male anatomy, and celebrates queer men. This may be due in part to our own internalized misogyny, or it may not be, but it's interesting to notice.
UPDATE I am wrong about this last part apparently!