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First, I don't speak for all people with selective mutism, only for myself and my own experiences.

Spoilers for the Fosters through Season 2, episode 6.

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Lt. Abbie (dog) and I had our first "Manners" class on Saturday. I enjoyed it. It's led by two middle-aged women and there are 9 dogs in the class. We learned basic things such as: when you say your dog's name, and she looks at you, give her a treat. When you walk on a loose leash and stop, wait for her to look at you, then say "good dog" and give her a treat. If a dog jumps on you, turn your back to it. Etc.

I didn't bring treats to the class: I thought about it, and decided against. So, anxious and embarrassed, I had to go up to one of the instructors and ask for treats, in order to work on some of the skills. I wish they had told me to bring treats during the initial phone call or in an email. Anyways, I will next time.

Abbie was anxious but well-behaved. She is attentive to me, but won't sit or lay down for a treat. When we are at the park, I can get her to jump up onto her hind legs for one.

She's anxious about a number of things, but it's only been about 6 months. I'm hoping that teaching her some tricks will channel some of her energy that is otherwise going into being anxious.
sasha_feather: white woman in space suit (Astronaut)
Wiscon Readings and Programming Sign-ups are open now, and are scheduled to close on Sunday March 22nd! http://wiscon.info/program/index.mhtml

There is some really great programming this year, check it out! You can sign up as "interested in attending" a panel or program item, which is part of how programs get picked and also room sizes chosen.

Please signal-boost if you are so inclined. You can copy/paste this post.
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For the #KTBookChallenge*, I decided to make a public Google drive spreadsheet listing disabled authors.

Disabled Authors Spreadsheet This spreadsheet can be edited by anyone; please feel free to do so.

Some people may want to focus on reading more disabled authors for this challenge, but not know who fits into the category. Many authors may not be "out" as disabled; this spreadsheet is for those who are: those who talk or write publicly about being disabled. The column for type of disability is not there because I want to focus on that or consider it especially important: it's more because some people with a certain disability may want to read books by people like themselves. Note that many of these authors are also women and/or queer.


*KT Bradford's article at XO Jane: I Challenge to you stop reading White, Straight, Cis male authors for one year

x-posted
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Consolidated notes on Queer movies that I've seen over the last six-ish years, as people seem to look for recs from time to time. Since I wrote these a while ago, some may no longer be on Netflix. Will edit this from time to time. Adding stars to ones I especially recommend.

52 movies )

Yay!

Mar. 6th, 2015 10:28 am
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Hey, it's my birthday! If you like, post something in comments that pleases you, whether it be cool, funny, joyful, satisfying, goofy, or soothing.

To get you started, here is a Percheron horse and a cow making a funny face. Photo by Flickr, Comité Départemental du Tourisme Orne.

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Last night a friend and I re-watched "Star Trek IV: the Voyage Home", also known as "The One with the Whales".

Why this is a feminist film:

this post contains spoilers for a 1986 film )
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First, previews:

Terminator: Genysis (or some other kind of misspelling). This. looks. awesome. On the one hand, how many movies can there be about trying to stop judgment day? On the other hand, who cares? I love this franchise and will definitely see this.

Avengers sequel: This looks pretty good. I may have made some squeaky noises at seeing these two trailers in a row. Marvel knows how to put a good trailer together, for sure.

The Lazarus Effect (Project?): a horror movie, thus I won't see it.

Ted 2. I was thinking, how did they manipulate Mark Wahlberg into making this film, but then I remembered that he has a bunch of shitty things in his past. This looks so, so, terrible.

Chappie. Another SF film that looks a bit like Short Circuit, but by the director of District 9. Probably will be violent. Hugh Jackman has weird hair in it.

spoilers maybe )

some links

Feb. 20th, 2015 11:22 am
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A friend of mine had an article published in the Atlantic, exploring the "watchmaker" metaphor used by some people interested in intelligent design. A Failed Metaphor for Intelligent Design by Adam Shapiro. This information-packed article explores how the metaphor suited the British society from which it arose.

A really thoughtful, wonderful article by a woman who chose to have a double mastectomy (vs. a single). Contains some partially-nude photographs. shirts off, underwear on: play out, breast cancer and gender expectations by Melanie Testa.

Doing Science Sitting Down, and other thoughts about Universal Design by [twitter.com profile] jacquelyngill.
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[personal profile] were_duck gave me the letter P.

Something I hate: Pants that don't fit right (more just a regular irritation these days). Politics in America might be more accurate.

Something I love: Pickles! Pop. Puppies. The word "precipice."

Somewhere I've been: Portland, Oregon

Somewhere I'd like to go: Panera bread for a nice bagel

Someone I know: I am somewhat acquainted with [personal profile] pennyplainknits.

A film I like: Pitch Black

A book I like: Paladin of Souls by Lois McMaster Bujold.

Feel free to ask for a letter if you'd like.
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There's a new show on Comedy Central, "The Nightly Show", which I've been enjoying on Hulu. I'm overall impressed by their exploration of issues, and how they have a range of activists and comedians on the panels offering viewpoints. WELL. Last night (Monday), Marianne Kirby [twitter.com profile] therotund was on the show! She talked about fat acceptance and looked glamorous.
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I will keep watching this, but I have mixed feelings about the pilot episode.

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"Pride"

Jan. 15th, 2015 10:44 pm
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I didn't do much today but it was a Twitter success day: re-tweeted by @Karnythia (29.8K followers) and Saladin Ahmed (24.1K Followers). If you care about that sort of thing. I used to have a locked twitter, so.

I watched the film "Pride" (2014) with some friends. I quite liked this film about a group of gay and lesbian activists in the UK who support striking miners. It's great to see a film about activists and politics; it reminded me a bit of "Milk" but was better because it focused on a group of people instead of one individual, and it focused on the politics and not on the drama of their relationships. It's a hopeful movie about the power of community activism.
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Previews we saw today in front of "Big Hero 6":

Home. Looks like a Lilo and Stitch type movie, about an alien who doesn't fit in, and a black woman with a flying car; in other words awesome. We laughed a lot at the preview which is a good sign.

Minions. This looks cute and funny! The Minions themselves are unmarked gender, which is apparently "everyone is male," and that bothers me some. But the goofy, cute humor appeals.

Inside Out, from Pixar. This looks awful. The preview was sexist, annoying, and unfunny. Playing on base gender stereotypes and families being annoyed at each other is not fun.

Spongebob. I'll skip it.

A Lucas film offering with fairies; it looked dull.

--

Big Hero 6 was all-around wonderful. It was funny, beautiful, and moving. Highly recommended. There is an extra scene post-credits.
sasha_feather: white woman in space suit (Astronaut)
Sell Your Body to the Night by [archiveofourown.org profile] dsudis. Teen Wolf, Derek/Stiles, explicit, 121K words.

I've been thinking about this one for days since finishing it. Stiles becomes a runaway sex worker in San Francisco, living in poverty. I was utterly pulled in to Stile's emotional state, the way his world narrows down to the things he can cope with, and how he focuses in on his time with Derek because it is what makes life tolerable. This was a controlled, slow story that led the me expertly right where it wanted to go. Also there is a great water sports scene plus Laura Hale being awesome.

Some Legends are Told by elisera. Derek/Stiles/Lydia. AU. 23,921 words. explicit.

Lydia is in line to inherent the throne, and her country has been at war for many years. She takes charge and does things her own way. It is awesome. I enjoyed the way that the relationship between these three slowly develops. Also, it isn't only about their relationship-- they also have a war to fight and a country to run. The setting reminded me of some YA fantasy novels that I love (Kristen Cashore and Megan Whalen Turner books), and it was also great to read a story where Derek doesn't magically heal.

Tortoise

Jan. 6th, 2015 10:01 pm
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What's Wrong with Me? by Meghan O'Rouke, in the New Yorker, 2013. A fantastic personal essay on having an autoimmune disease.

Lately I feel like while my peers and friends are making progress with their lives, I am barely maintaining mine. It's hard not to compare myself to other people and find myself coming up short. I'm permanently poor, my career is going nowhere, I'm chronically single, and I have no energy, etc.

It's comforting to be around animals, who are better at living in the moment. I'm meditating upon the tortoise, a cool animal that takes its time.

When I was about 18 or so, an adult friend of mine from 4-H and I were discussing shyness, and how she used to be shy. Her advice was, "give yourself ten years." It was good advice.

Give yourself time. Be the tortoise.
sasha_feather: neat looking overcoat (coat)
A while back [personal profile] longwhitecoats asked on Twitter about movies that influenced our queer identities.

I was thinking about this last night; and it's possible I've written about all or most of this before in 2009-ish. Queer identity is not static, but shifts over time. However, for me, my queer identity was most in focus when I was coming out, and the TV, movies, and other media I consumed mattered a lot.

Firefly-- specifically, Simon Tam. It's not just that the actor is gay, though that is part of it. It's that he's uncomfortable and feels unsafe, so he retreats into what he knows, which is medicine and manners. He acts differently around men vs. women-- women he treats as friends and confidants; with men there is something else going on-- the charge of attraction. He does like Kaylee, but I think what he feels is envy. Kaylee is comfortable in her skin, in touch with her desires, and free to act upon them. His opposite. (Also, it's nice when someone has a crush on you; but his supposed flirting is beyond awkward and into painful.)

About a Boy-- not a gay movie at all. But what I related to here was Will Freeman's solitude, the aspect that feelings and connections with other people are messy and scary, and it's better to avoid them and just be alone. The plot of the film involves Marcus and his mother disrupting Will's patterns and forcing Will to form connections, to be more honest and vulnerable, to have feelings. These might seem like small risks to some people but they are big risks for others, for those with anxiety for instance. For me, a big part of coming out was admitting that I am sensitive and anxious, and really dealing with having lots of feelings.

But I'm a Cheerleader-- So much love for this film. What strikes me now is Megan's concept of herself as a normal, good person, and how it's difficult for her mesh that concept with being gay. In many ways she's conformist, obedient, wants to please others; coming out means she really can't do so anymore. News flash: gay is normal; but it means you are going to be an outcast. I wish I'd seen this film sooner.

Queer as Folk-- I watched this really fast and doubt I'd enjoy it as much now; but at the time it was like an oasis in the desert. I was working a terrible, exhausting job, and I latched onto QaF and Buffy like my life depended on it. Gay people and sex and culture-- just, stuff I really hadn't had much exposure to, and needed to see. (Curiously, I later tried to watch the L word and hated it; idk.)

The Crying Game-- it's sad that this movie became a punch line to hundreds of jokes, because it's a beautiful film. I should watch it again; my memory of it is fuzzy but I remember having an understanding of what the characters were going through.

Top Five

Dec. 27th, 2014 01:11 am
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Top Five, written, directed by, and starring Chris Rock, rated R, 2014

This is a tightly written film about a comedian named Andre Allen, who reluctantly agrees to do an interview with Chelsea Brown (Rosario Dawson). They spend the day together talking as Allen does press for his new film and attempts to handle his reality-star fiancee (Gabrielle Union). There are lot of threads and characters, deftly handled, as the two wander around New York. They discuss addiction and recovery and Allen takes stock of his career, which is at a turning point.

This film has a lot going for it-- fun cameos, a lot of honesty from Chris Rock's character, and good pacing. However I cannot recommend it to my friends, and here's why.

There are two major sex scenes in the film. They are both disturbing and yet played for laughs.

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Chris Rock seems to be savvy to a lot of issues, particularly involving race and snappy dialog, but he fails on this one.

Zuko I am disappoint!

Games

Dec. 14th, 2014 02:16 pm
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Some games I've played recently

FTL (Faster than Light)

Love it. It's hard, but the difficulty keeps me playing.

The player controls a Federation ship staffed by humans and aliens, jumping between FTL beacons to explore the region and fight rebels and pirates. Hostile ships can destroy you, as can boarders and environmental hazards such as asteroid fields. You gather weapons, fuel, and scrap (money), buy things at stores, and upgrade the ship to do better. Progressing through the regions (levels), things get a bit harder until you reach level 8, where you have to fight the Rebel flagship. I played this game a bit obsessively until I finally beat the flagship, on easy setting, using the Engi cruiser ship. I like that there are different ships and settings-- this rewards multiple play-throughs. I like that the game is relatively easy to learn and has a science fiction setting. You can name your ship and staff anything you like.

Long Live the Queen

A visual Novel that I bought off steam at the recommendation of [profile] ribbonknight. You play a princess that is preparing to take over her Kingdom. You control what classes she takes, building skills that impact available decisions. You can also influence her mood by choosing activities. This is fun, low stress and has death achievements. It rewards multiple play-throughs because there are a lot of different things to unlock. I used some guides on Steam to figure out how to get a couple of achievements, because it was not intuitive to me. I also appreciate that the princess can have relationships with both men and women in this game.

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