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sasha_feather ([personal profile] sasha_feather) wrote2019-10-18 08:02 pm

"Unspeakable" by Harriet Shawcross (2019)

"Unspeakable: the things we cannot say".

I really wanted to like this book more, because I have/had selective mutism, and I'm queer. The author is bisexual and had a period of silence during her adolescence. Some parts did work for me, and the prose was nice. Other parts did not work for me at all.

This book is somewhere between memoir and investigative or journalistic non-fiction. The memoir provides a frame for the journalistic parts. This combination is like a spork: half as good as a spoon, half as good as a fork. I wanted either more detail and emotion around the author's experiences, or more in-depth investigation of the topics she was exploring. Her topics are wide-ranging: the Samaritans, silent religious mediation, talk therapy, and more. She really skims through these topics rather quickly.

I liked the chapter on selective mutism, but wanted more interviews and details. I appreciated the chapter about the dangers of meditation, which is an under-reported problem in society and in medicine. I did not like the section on Nepal (concerning people who survived an Earthquake), which seemed to gloss over a lot of subjects. Crucially, for me, the author did not investigate the concept of societal silence and how this can affect people, especially queer people.

I was bothered by the middle section. The author interviews Eve Ensler, creator of "The Vagina Monologues." This section was very cis-centric, blithely equating vaginas with women. In one section, the author discusses the childhood abuse of one George Oppen, her favorite poet. But a couple of times she refers to this abuse as "unwanted advances," a very strange way of discussing childhood sexual abuse. I found it frustrating that the author complained about how people with selective mutism only wanted to communicate by email.

Other content notes include: mention of suicide and self-harm

P.S. I wrote an article about Selective Mutism for FWD (disabledfeminists.com) some years back, but it seems to have disappeared. Can anyone help me find it?
jesse_the_k: Big cheryl haworth deadlifts under Olympic Rings (cheryl wins olympic gold)

Thanks so much for digging that up.

[personal profile] jesse_the_k 2019-10-19 10:13 pm (UTC)(link)
If you have a chance, I'd love to know what searching magic you used to locate the article.
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Re: Thanks so much for digging that up.

[personal profile] runpunkrun 2019-10-19 10:30 pm (UTC)(link)
I tried the usual tricks with Google, limiting it to site:disabledfeminists.com and searching for "selective mutism", but since it wasn't on the website any longer, that didn't work. I removed the site limiter and widened my search but couldn't find any pages that linked to the article. So I put my search terms into Pinboard and hoped, and blammo:

Pinboard Global Search results for "disabledfeminists" "selective mutism"

Got four hits (one of which belonged to you, sasha_feather!), then took the URL and plugged it into the Wayback Machine and did some more hoping.
jesse_the_k: harbor seal's head captioned "seal of approval" (Approval)

Re: Thanks so much for digging that up.

[personal profile] jesse_the_k 2019-10-19 10:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Hooray.

The Waybackmachine isn't an open search, like Google. You have to feed it a specific URL.

Your key move is using Pinboard to dig up some full URLs to plug into the Waybackmachine.
runpunkrun: the doctor's blue police call box in a field (tardis)

Re: Thanks so much for digging that up.

[personal profile] runpunkrun 2019-10-19 10:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, exactly. In order to find what you're looking for on the Wayback Machine, you need to start with an exact URL.