So, I'd never thought about it because I watched it as light entertainment (which of course doesn't mean it can't have serious meaning) and what I remember is being pleased by it, but you're right in that it really is a movie about succeeding on your own terms. And it's great that Elle doesn't have to reject her femininity in order to succeed in a man's world, because we're constantly being told that we do (and then being told that rejecting our femininity to succeed at work means we've lost the chance to succeed at love, see all the romcoms about unfeminine high-power women who are miserable in their love lives).