Oh, this is excellent! The last two paragraphs really pinned down my own nebulous feelings about the film, and about femme-ness, and mine and my various friends' mixed reactions to it. I have a friend who's entirely high femme, and who has decided, therefore, that she can't call herself a feminist, because in her head those things are mutually exclusive. Attempts (unsuccessful) to talk her out of this unfortunate conclusion have been made many times -- but if it comes up again, I'm pointing to Legally Blonde as a reconciliation of the two. (And now I'm downloading the movie, so I can watch it again and revel in it.)