I also had few female friendships until I was an adult. I rebelled so hard against lots of femininity markers that I missed seeing a lot of stuff going on under the surface. The original post and raanve's reply speak to me, a lot.

Academic Chic is smart women speaking plainly and enthusiastically (and analytically) about what they wear to look good. In one post they ask the reader to name five things she likes about her body.