Since around age 6, I've known I was bisexual. That personal experience has strongly affected my understanding of the "choice dialog."
In the 70s women's movement, bisexuality was deprecated, in part because of the choice issue. If I could choose between male and female partners, why in the world would I choose men? (Men were a bad choice based on the assumption that they were fundamentally [string of negative adjectives and soldiers of the patriarchy].)
My response (quietly in corners) and my internal explanation was I'd happened upon a male person who pushed the right buttons.
I must say that I've encounter people who don't seem to have the constitution to make a choice. Lesbians and heterosexual men who are completed disinterested in male bodies; gay men and women who are indifferent to female bodies. Given that reality, I believe "queer as a choice" definitely belongs in the "as we grow, we know" box. But I can't say that "queer is always a choice."
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In the 70s women's movement, bisexuality was deprecated, in part because of the choice issue. If I could choose between male and female partners, why in the world would I choose men? (Men were a bad choice based on the assumption that they were fundamentally [string of negative adjectives and soldiers of the patriarchy].)
My response (quietly in corners) and my internal explanation was I'd happened upon a male person who pushed the right buttons.
I must say that I've encounter people who don't seem to have the constitution to make a choice. Lesbians and heterosexual men who are completed disinterested in male bodies; gay men and women who are indifferent to female bodies. Given that reality, I believe "queer as a choice" definitely belongs in the "as we grow, we know" box. But I can't say that "queer is always a choice."