Horses are good company -- The Witcher

Yeah, if the discussion were "John Ringo wrote about his personal kinks and that's gross," or "John Ringo's kinks are gross," that would be problematic (mind you, I wouldn't be surprised if that had come up at some point; I haven't read the OH JOHN RINGO NO post recently, so I can't recall if it does there). I think we can critique problematic tropes in John Ringo's work (or Stephanie Meyer's or Anne Bishop's or Mercedes Lackey's, to come up with a few writers who may be writing some personal kinks into narratives which contain some problematic tropes) without criticizing personal kinks. Sometimes it is hard for commenters not do do this, or for writers not to view criticism as criticism of their personal kinks, though.