Kink and Disability Links; Access is for Everyone

[sasha_feather]

awils1 posted this in disability: Kink, disability, and ableist prescription of what we are allowed to do; a set of 3 links.

I particularly liked this passage from a feminist pro-SM website:

As far as the observation you mention... I honestly think kinky orientations are quite common among people with disabilities, and I've been open before about my opinion that some people's anti-SM sentiments (or better said anti-pain play sentiments) strike me as honestly ableist.

Because what they boil down to is telling people how they can, or how they ought, use their bodies. What kinds of stimulation mean pleasure, and what kind mean badness. It's taking a normative body-map and saying everyone should fit it, and if you don't you're consenting to be abused.

What I hear when I hear people say liking pain play is "abnormal", when by that they mean wrong, bad, or unhealthy, is the same thing I hear when someone tells me that oh, sure, wheelchairs are great, but it's really natural to walk.

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Just thought that was interesting. All of the links are interesting!

Also I made my first post to access_fandom; check it out. One thing I like out about the word "Access" is that is not specific to those of us who identify as disabled Access benefits everyone whether they identify as disabled or not.

A good example is curb cuts, which are in place legally for wheelchair users. They also benefit people with strollers, wagons, wheeled luggage, hand carts, and probably other things I'm not thinking of. Same with automatic door openers. Same with water service, quiet places, etc. Having a more accessible world is in some ways about having a more usable and humane world.