I also think it's weird to use a disabling event as a catalyst to bring to characters together. What I think might be more interesting? Take two or more characters who are already disabled, give them interesting well-rounded lives and relationships, and have them talk to each other about what their respective disabilities mean to them. Have them care for each other in the same ways that able-bodied people do.
I fret over this when I write stories involving characters with disabilities/characters who become disabled/variations thereof when I wrote stories, as it is somewhat of an interest for me that I can't seem to get away from. And I do like to think that I approach it respectfully and don't try to 'fix it' with comfort beyond the comfort that a romantic relationship would bring to the disabled partner. That is to say, I think I use the circumstances as the frame, and the emotional block as the hurt that needs comforting, and not the actual injury/disability itself.
Although I don't think I've had this conversation with anyone I can recall, and certainly I don't think that anyone's ever called me out on writing something unrealistically or offensively... but I am always open to feedback/comments.
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Date: 2010-06-12 06:18 pm (UTC)I fret over this when I write stories involving characters with disabilities/characters who become disabled/variations thereof when I wrote stories, as it is somewhat of an interest for me that I can't seem to get away from. And I do like to think that I approach it respectfully and don't try to 'fix it' with comfort beyond the comfort that a romantic relationship would bring to the disabled partner. That is to say, I think I use the circumstances as the frame, and the emotional block as the hurt that needs comforting, and not the actual injury/disability itself.
Although I don't think I've had this conversation with anyone I can recall, and certainly I don't think that anyone's ever called me out on writing something unrealistically or offensively... but I am always open to feedback/comments.