It turns out that asking for help is HARD. Especially if you have to do it over and over and don't feel like you can give anything back. Especially if you have a communication disorder or social anxiety or something else that is disabling. Requesting or requiring people to ask for help is ok sometimes, but it puts the onus on disabled people. It also requires them to self-identify or "out" themselves as disabled, which for some people with invisible disabilities is not necessarily something they want to do.
And, you know, there is a huge difference between when you out yourself only to immediately ask something of them as opposed to just outing yourself in normal conversation. HUGE difference, between, say, "I have [invisible disability] so could you please stand up so I can sit down?" and "I have [invisible disability] so I really want to go to the Disability and Fandom panel" or whatever, both on the side of the disabled person asking and on the side of how the CND person is likely to react. I do not see why people are having such trouble with this concept!
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Date: 2010-06-28 08:20 pm (UTC)And, you know, there is a huge difference between when you out yourself only to immediately ask something of them as opposed to just outing yourself in normal conversation. HUGE difference, between, say, "I have [invisible disability] so could you please stand up so I can sit down?" and "I have [invisible disability] so I really want to go to the Disability and Fandom panel" or whatever, both on the side of the disabled person asking and on the side of how the CND person is likely to react. I do not see why people are having such trouble with this concept!