Some concerns about hc_bingo

[sasha_feather]

Or, Why I'm not participating in hc_bingo / hc_bingo

Here is a list of the h/c (hurt/comfort) cliches used for the cards. Warning: many of these are upsetting and offensive.

Here is the fanlore wiki page for hurt/comfort for anyone unfamiliar with this fan fiction genre.



1. Ableism

Many of these "cliches" listed are real disabilities and problems that affect real people. Many of them are triggering. Many of them are lifelong, difficult issues and many of them are wrapped up in people's identities. The potential for problematic portrayals of disability in this challenge seems especially high. If you are participating, please do your research, and please be respectful. Consider writing from the point of view of the person with the disability, rather than the caretaker. Consider what it's like to have that disability; maybe read some blog posts.

Disabilities, in my experience, are most often not cured but instead lived with. Hurt/comfort stories seem to rely on a trope that love and/or sex can "fix" or greatly resolve the problems created by the disability or traumatic event. I get that this is romantic, but it is not realistic. People live with disabilities on a long-term basis and are people are not magically fixed by relationships. Even "comfort" as is it thought of (physical affection, food, sex, etc) may be unwanted in these situations. People may want to be alone or may not want to be touched.

I also think it's weird to use a disabling event as a catalyst to bring to characters together. What I think might be more interesting? Take two or more characters who are already disabled, give them interesting well-rounded lives and relationships, and have them talk to each other about what their respective disabilities mean to them. Have them care for each other in the same ways that able-bodied people do.

2. Format

The "bingo" format, taken from kink_bingo, levels and equalizes the squares, so that if you are participating, you may find yourself writing stories or making art for the challenge in ways that surprise you. In this case, a bingo card serves to equalize such things as "brain damage", "wings (always there)", "body hatred", and "zombie apocalypse".

Unlike kink_bingo, I cannot find a wiki or other education materials meant to elucidate what the squares mean. These are difficult subjects, and it's a long list of cliches. Making information available about each category doesn't seem to be a priority.

3. Triggers and Warnings

From the FAQ:
"I am triggered by sexual trauma prompts and don't want them on my card. What do I do?
The mods recognize that the nature of a hurt/comfort challenge has potentially triggering content. If you would like a card without sexual trauma based situations, please note that when you sign up so we could give you a card avoiding this area altogether.

"I am triggered by another prompt that isn't listed as sexual trauma. What do I do?
Please either note this in your sign up comment or email the mods. We want to make sure everyone has a good time so we will work with you to make sure any triggering prompts are not on your card.
Besides that, given the specific nature of the prompts, you can look the list of cliches the cards are made from before signing up and veto from one to three cliches that would be triggery/uncomfortable for you to write about, without penalty." (emphasis mine)

Why one to three? You know, maybe the bingo format, or the chosen prompts, just doesn't work that well for this challenge.

From the rules post:
"14. Even if it is in the prompt you are still required to warn for rape/non-con, dub-con, incest, character death/suicide, or graphic self-harm. The other warnings are left to your discretion, though we do encourage you to warn as fully as it's possible."

I understand that there is not currently a fandom-wide warnings policy, but this rather light warnings policy, especially given the nature of the prompt, leaves a lot of readers in the cold.

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Comments not needed in my blog:
"You shouldn't be offended"
"Stop harshing our squee"



Important ETAs

The hc_mods are revising their trigger and warnings policies and have said they will be hosting an open discussion about prompts for their next round.

Please also see damned_colonial's post on this subject.

Comments

h/c fics in general

[freekydj]

I find myself both pleased and somewhat disturbed by the conversations that the whole h/c bingo is generating. I've personally experienced way too many of the more touchy "hurts" than I'd like to dwell on. But I figure I've got a right to my opinion, too.

I'll admit that there are a few immature authors out there who may take a serious problem, gloss it over and it's all magically better in the end. These are in general, author's I don't read more of. As close as some subjects are to me, such as childhood bulllying and abuse, and now physical disabilities; I still enjoy a good fic that incorporates these elements into the storyline.

I am pretty ok with it if the comfort portion is just some emotional support during a tough time, and it's not all bettter in the end. It is even better if the disabled person is also portrayed as a strong character, not just some sniveling ninny who constantly needs a pat on the back to get through their day.

To me, I enjoy a fic when you're left with a feeling that the person who's been hurt is not left feeling all alone in the world at the end of the fic, that they've found someone they can count on, if that makes sense.

I don't think that any author out there would knowingly write something disrespectful and/or discriminatory, which seems to be part of the question here. I think if they do make this mistake, that they will find in their comments that they've touched a nerve, and will hopefully learn from the experience. I would hate to see people afraid to sign up for these events because someone is offended by the storylines that are proposed. But I am glad to see that the writers are concerned with handling the subjects with care.