it's good, livin' with you
May. 1st, 2019 09:52 pmI am feeling more mentally healthy than i have in a long while. This is because I got disability back pay. The stress of not having money (and being expected to make my own way) was enormous, and now that it is mostly gone, I keep experiencing new levels of relief and a sense of rest.
I made a couple of purchases that I've been putting off for years: 2 new bras, new Keen sandals. (the old ones were literally falling apart). I paid off my dental debt. I feel more capable of handling obstacles and problems in my life. I'm less anxious, which interestingly, makes me more capable of noticing and dealing with anxiety when it does come up, because it's not just the normal background noise.
This is what safety nets can do. I want there to be a safety net for all people, such as universal basic income. I want people's debts to be forgiven.
I made a couple of purchases that I've been putting off for years: 2 new bras, new Keen sandals. (the old ones were literally falling apart). I paid off my dental debt. I feel more capable of handling obstacles and problems in my life. I'm less anxious, which interestingly, makes me more capable of noticing and dealing with anxiety when it does come up, because it's not just the normal background noise.
This is what safety nets can do. I want there to be a safety net for all people, such as universal basic income. I want people's debts to be forgiven.
I realized the other day that trying to do everything myself is prideful. Not pride as opposed to shame (or maybe it is-- maybe feeling ashamed of not being able to do stuff), but pride as opposed to humility. Asking for help is humble.
I am having a hard time with pain today.
eta: I have some big dental expenses (past and future); I'm hoping that having my new crown looked at might address some of my pain. I have a paypal account under sandphin@gmail.com
I am having a hard time with pain today.
eta: I have some big dental expenses (past and future); I'm hoping that having my new crown looked at might address some of my pain. I have a paypal account under sandphin@gmail.com
Semi-regular ask for assistance with paying my medical bills.
http://paypal.me/sandphin
eta:
For those who don't like paypal (understandably)
My contact info is under lock here http://sasha-feather.dreamwidth.org/784754.html
http://paypal.me/sandphin
eta:
For those who don't like paypal (understandably)
My contact info is under lock here http://sasha-feather.dreamwidth.org/784754.html
Do you feel like re-distributing wealth?
Do you like giving money to poor people, directly, rather than through a charity?
Do you have some money burning a hole in your pocket?
You can give money to me at my paypal: sandphin@gmail.com
You can also support my friend kuwdora by taking a look at some art for sale!
http://kuwdora.dreamwidth.org/tag/%5Bart%5D:sale
Do you like giving money to poor people, directly, rather than through a charity?
Do you have some money burning a hole in your pocket?
You can give money to me at my paypal: sandphin@gmail.com
You can also support my friend kuwdora by taking a look at some art for sale!
http://kuwdora.dreamwidth.org/tag/%5Bart%5D:sale
Getting sick, getting poor
May. 13th, 2017 06:19 pmGetting sick, getting poor
You cut back on your work hours because you’re sick. Your income drops, but it’s worth it for the extra rest. You know you aren’t getting better; you won’t ever get better.
You cut back on expenses little by little. You already don’t much like drinking alcohol or coffee, so the articles advising you to cut back on lattes or cocktails are lost on you.
You already buy most of your clothes from the thrift store. You stop using the coin-op dryer and hang your clothes on the line to air dry. It makes your shoulder hurt but saves you a few bucks in quarters. You dilute the laundry detergent with a little bit of water.
You share your Netflix and Hulu accounts. You stop paying for internet sites that you used to throw a few bucks at when you liked their service, like Dreamwidth and Flickr. They have free versions available.
You ask your parents for money, again, knowing how fortunate you are that they can help, and that you have a good relationship with them, and that they don't hold back financial support due to your queerness.
You run up your credit card buying gas. You think about taking the bus more, but the stops and starts make you nauseous. That’s not a new thing, not a chronic illness thing. The school bus made you nauseous as a kid. But it does seem worse now.
You stop working for a while because you get laid off, and anyways you need to take a break: you’re really sick. Sicker than you want to admit to anyone, even yourself. A while becomes a longer while.
Your main entertainment is the dog park (Permit: $32 / year), Netflix ($10/month), and reading fanfic and the internet (mostly free - wireless internet $21 for your share; electric bill $16 for your share). You use the library more and more for comics and the occasional movie.
You reluctantly go on food stamps. You notice yourself eating the heel of the loaf of bread, which you used to give to the dog because it was “all crust”.
You ask your friends for help paying your medical bills and other expenses. They come through, and you think about how fortunate you are.
You feel guilty.
You learn about anti-capitalism. You feel less guilty.
You learn about the emotional costs and structural sources of poverty. You begin to feel empowered.
You read about the Mortgage Interest Deduction in the New York Times Magazine. You get angry, and anger is fuel.
You stop and get a fucking ice cream cone.
You cut back on your work hours because you’re sick. Your income drops, but it’s worth it for the extra rest. You know you aren’t getting better; you won’t ever get better.
You cut back on expenses little by little. You already don’t much like drinking alcohol or coffee, so the articles advising you to cut back on lattes or cocktails are lost on you.
You already buy most of your clothes from the thrift store. You stop using the coin-op dryer and hang your clothes on the line to air dry. It makes your shoulder hurt but saves you a few bucks in quarters. You dilute the laundry detergent with a little bit of water.
You share your Netflix and Hulu accounts. You stop paying for internet sites that you used to throw a few bucks at when you liked their service, like Dreamwidth and Flickr. They have free versions available.
You ask your parents for money, again, knowing how fortunate you are that they can help, and that you have a good relationship with them, and that they don't hold back financial support due to your queerness.
You run up your credit card buying gas. You think about taking the bus more, but the stops and starts make you nauseous. That’s not a new thing, not a chronic illness thing. The school bus made you nauseous as a kid. But it does seem worse now.
You stop working for a while because you get laid off, and anyways you need to take a break: you’re really sick. Sicker than you want to admit to anyone, even yourself. A while becomes a longer while.
Your main entertainment is the dog park (Permit: $32 / year), Netflix ($10/month), and reading fanfic and the internet (mostly free - wireless internet $21 for your share; electric bill $16 for your share). You use the library more and more for comics and the occasional movie.
You reluctantly go on food stamps. You notice yourself eating the heel of the loaf of bread, which you used to give to the dog because it was “all crust”.
You ask your friends for help paying your medical bills and other expenses. They come through, and you think about how fortunate you are.
You feel guilty.
You learn about anti-capitalism. You feel less guilty.
You learn about the emotional costs and structural sources of poverty. You begin to feel empowered.
You read about the Mortgage Interest Deduction in the New York Times Magazine. You get angry, and anger is fuel.
You stop and get a fucking ice cream cone.
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kuwdora is raising funds for rent:http://kuwdora.dreamwidth.org/650593.html
Ladyvean at Tumblr is raising funds for medical expenses:
http://angelictroublemaker.tumblr.com/post/159208620852/allprevailing-ladyvean-hello-friends
my self-destructive tendencies
Mar. 30th, 2017 04:14 pmRaising money to pay a medical bill. Paypal info below the cut.
( money )
eta: unlocking this post
OMG thank you friends ILU you are the best :D :D :D
( money )
eta: unlocking this post
OMG thank you friends ILU you are the best :D :D :D
Making events affordable
Sep. 8th, 2014 03:15 pmPursuant to my post about conferences, I've been thinking about how making events affordable is an access issue.
Making your event affordable attracts people of different classes and backgrounds and locations. It also makes your event more welcoming to disabled folks / PWD. People with disabilities are more likely to be poor for structural, societal reasons. Being disabled can affect a person's earning potential due to discrimination and impairment-related reasons; it also is just plain expensive. For me, for example: There are co-pays on prescriptions and doctor appointments; health services that are not covered by insurance; supplements to buy; expensive shoes that don't hurt my feet; the list goes on and on. For people on special diets, food can be more expensive. A 2008 study found gluten-free products to be much more expensive than their gluten-containing counterparts.
Worry about money is a near-constant source of stress for many people, and some studies link this stress to negative health effects.
If we are planning events, what can we do to help make them more affordable?
Here are some ideas:
Registration and Programming
Sliding scale registrations; day memberships
Member Assistance Fund or Scholarships
ConSuite (hospitality suite)
Free Childcare
Kid, Teen, Youth programming tracks at fan conventions so people can bring their kids
Rebates or refunds for volunteering or presenting
Lodging
List area hostels
Have a room share board on social media
Transportation
Provide cab vouchers and/or mass transit fees so people can get back to their lodging late at night
Have a ride share board
Choose a venue that is on bus or mass transit lines
Food
List local restaurants, grocery stores, and markets. Note if the markets accept food stamps. note if the grocery stores deliver.
Note if they hotel has fridges or microwaves in the rooms or lobby.
Miscellaneous
Look for grants and sponsorships to help off set costs.
Ask for donated items for prizes and gifts.
Making your event affordable attracts people of different classes and backgrounds and locations. It also makes your event more welcoming to disabled folks / PWD. People with disabilities are more likely to be poor for structural, societal reasons. Being disabled can affect a person's earning potential due to discrimination and impairment-related reasons; it also is just plain expensive. For me, for example: There are co-pays on prescriptions and doctor appointments; health services that are not covered by insurance; supplements to buy; expensive shoes that don't hurt my feet; the list goes on and on. For people on special diets, food can be more expensive. A 2008 study found gluten-free products to be much more expensive than their gluten-containing counterparts.
Worry about money is a near-constant source of stress for many people, and some studies link this stress to negative health effects.
If we are planning events, what can we do to help make them more affordable?
Here are some ideas:
Registration and Programming
Sliding scale registrations; day memberships
Member Assistance Fund or Scholarships
ConSuite (hospitality suite)
Free Childcare
Kid, Teen, Youth programming tracks at fan conventions so people can bring their kids
Rebates or refunds for volunteering or presenting
Lodging
List area hostels
Have a room share board on social media
Transportation
Provide cab vouchers and/or mass transit fees so people can get back to their lodging late at night
Have a ride share board
Choose a venue that is on bus or mass transit lines
Food
List local restaurants, grocery stores, and markets. Note if the markets accept food stamps. note if the grocery stores deliver.
Note if they hotel has fridges or microwaves in the rooms or lobby.
Miscellaneous
Look for grants and sponsorships to help off set costs.
Ask for donated items for prizes and gifts.
Gratitude / Daily Happiness
Nov. 2nd, 2012 07:53 pm1. I've been really stressing about money (btw thank you to those of you who bought my gift cards); but my family has been quietly helping me out without me even having to ask. This is really humbling. Also, it's weird to think about how I was making it before the Scott Walker pay cut to state workers. And now, it's harder.
2. I went to Cheers with Queers last night and had a great time.
3. I wore my really awesome wool suit today.
4. I am finished doing recruitment and enrollment for my study at work!! \o/
5. A few days this week I've seen my friend Kendra at the dog park which was really fun. I know her from outside the dog park, and she just got a dog.
6. I really enjoy my Thursday lunches withjesse_the_k. This week we watched a film called "Wretches and Jabberers", which is about two men with autism who are activists. They travel around the world and meet other people like themselves. In the movie, they go to Sri Lanka, Japan, and Finland. I really enjoyed and recommend this film.
7. There was a good seminar today that I got to attend most of; about diagnosing disease before and after death (ie at autopsy). It was really interesting, and the pathologist who was presenting is a bit of a fuss pot and makes everyone laugh. For instance his power point appeared pink, and he complained, "Whoever is in charge, I am not going to be happy here, because the words are supposed to be white not purple!" My boss tried to soothe him, "It'll be all right," to which he responded crankily, "For you maybe but not for me!" (cue laughter). They figured out the color problem was due to a bad connection, so then the director of the whole program sat there with his hand holding the connection down, to keep the wires tight. Also he said the first case's name, which is a big no-no, and when the director chided him, "no names!", he sighed and said, "OK, this person is [PATHOLOGIST]!", saying his own name.
8. I got a free cookie at the seminar.
2. I went to Cheers with Queers last night and had a great time.
3. I wore my really awesome wool suit today.
4. I am finished doing recruitment and enrollment for my study at work!! \o/
5. A few days this week I've seen my friend Kendra at the dog park which was really fun. I know her from outside the dog park, and she just got a dog.
6. I really enjoy my Thursday lunches with
jesse_the_k. This week we watched a film called "Wretches and Jabberers", which is about two men with autism who are activists. They travel around the world and meet other people like themselves. In the movie, they go to Sri Lanka, Japan, and Finland. I really enjoyed and recommend this film.7. There was a good seminar today that I got to attend most of; about diagnosing disease before and after death (ie at autopsy). It was really interesting, and the pathologist who was presenting is a bit of a fuss pot and makes everyone laugh. For instance his power point appeared pink, and he complained, "Whoever is in charge, I am not going to be happy here, because the words are supposed to be white not purple!" My boss tried to soothe him, "It'll be all right," to which he responded crankily, "For you maybe but not for me!" (cue laughter). They figured out the color problem was due to a bad connection, so then the director of the whole program sat there with his hand holding the connection down, to keep the wires tight. Also he said the first case's name, which is a big no-no, and when the director chided him, "no names!", he sighed and said, "OK, this person is [PATHOLOGIST]!", saying his own name.
8. I got a free cookie at the seminar.
